The glacial relationships which result from the mother’s effort to take over her daughter’s wedding are a regular staple of Hollywood movie plots. But does it happen in reality?
Not according to research from the Financial Services Compensation Scheme. It has found that only 13% of parents said they had regular disputes with their grown-up children over the planning of a wedding. Over four in five (83%) said such disputes were rare. However, recently-married children have a slightly different recollection, with 72% agreeing that they hardly had a difference of opinion.
Just under three in 10 parents (29%) said they expressed a strong opinion about certain elements of the wedding, such as the venue, drink, entertainment. A higher number of newlyweds thought their parents had expressed strong opinions – 39%.
Charley Beard, professional wedding planner for London-bride.com, says: Most parents hope to be involved in the planning of such an important event in their child's lifetime. It's natural they want to share in the excitement and to advise and support them, however, despite their best intentions their input can occasionally become more than this as they begin to force their own wishes and opinions into the wedding day. Perhaps this is due to feeling pressured by their peers, friends and relatives to provide the most perfect day for everyone and if they are contributing to the costs they are likely to feel a huge responsibility in this.
Whatever your marital status is, FSCS protects your savings up to £85,000 per person in UK authorised banks, building societies and credit unions. So if you’re saving for your wedding, or your parents are doing so on your behalf, you can rest assured the money is safe. Find out more by visiting www.fscs.org.uk/protected